What is GIVE?
GIVE is a DBT skill that focuses on maintaining relationships by showing respect, empathy, and validation. This skill helps balance your needs while preserving harmony in interactions.
The GIVE Breakdown
G: Gentle
Be kind and nonjudgmental in your interactions. Avoid aggression, threats, or criticism.
Examples:
- Speak calmly and avoid raising your voice.
- Use gentle words and tone, even when upset.
I: Interested
Show genuine interest in the other person’s feelings, thoughts, and perspectives.
Examples:
- Listen actively without interrupting.
- Ask thoughtful questions to understand their point of view.
V: Validate
Acknowledge and validate the other person’s feelings, even if you don’t agree with their perspective.
Examples:
- "I can see how that situation would make you upset."
- "It makes sense that you feel this way."
E: Easy Manner
Approach the interaction with a relaxed and approachable demeanor to reduce tension.
Examples:
- Smile and use humor to lighten the mood.
- Be patient and avoid appearing rushed or stressed.
When to Use GIVE
GIVE is most effective in situations where:
- You want to maintain or improve a relationship.
- You need to navigate a difficult conversation with respect.
- You want to avoid escalating tension during a disagreement.
Practicing GIVE regularly can help foster trust, connection, and mutual respect in your relationships.